Posts in kindness

You know what doesn't help overcome resistance?

You know what doesn't help overcome resistance?

“So, I put a lot of pressure on myself. All the time.” My husband stared at me. “Yes,” he said emphatically, as if I’d just pointed out that ice is cold or nighttime is dark. Okaaay, I guess the press...

Feeling seen

Feeling seen

In the summer of 2019, I was three months into a new job. My house had endured major construction that resulted in equally major water damage. We were about to go live in a hotel until just before Chr...

Three reasons not to bring hostility

Three reasons not to bring hostility

I enjoy challenges to my “conventional wisdom” about how developers and dev teams work. We can improve. “The way we’ve always done it” isn’t necessarily the best way. Luckily, I have found people on s...