Be clear about your goal, issue 26 of Beyond Writing Code
Be clear about your goal, and the other decisions become much easier. Here's how I learned that lesson and got clarity about my goal.
Posts in helping
How to help when you can't, issue 8 of Beyond Writing Code
Sometimes the best help is just being there and suffering with a friend.
When you ask for help, issue 7 of Beyond Writing Code
Understanding emotions as clues when asking for help, and the importance of emotional regulation.